My Personal Commandments | Happy Easter | Artful Balance

1. I cause my own suffering.

2. All the tools I need to alleviate it are within me.

3. They (the tools) are not what most people would recommend.

4. It is my responsibility alone to shepherd my personal growth.

5. Blaming others is disempowering and the opposite of a solution.

6. Relationships are resources — my ability to grow and maintain healthy relationships is a tool, a skill for making a stronger, more independent, more productive me. (Therefore, not all attachments are weaknesses.)

7. Love means sometimes risking that my loved one will grow in a direction away from me.

8. Worldviews that involve prejudice are detrimental to me. Not only does prescriptive prejudice not align with reality, but it conflicts with commandments 4 and 5 by leading to blame-making and hampering the health of potential relationships. Prejudices disempower me.

9. I don't play by the rule book for millenials/women/Westerners in love or life.

10. My only job is to describe my experiences; let others dismantle their preconceptions themselves.

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Artful Balance © 2019

These are my personal writings curated from material produced during my structured daily writing times as well as spontaneous thoughts I manage to record. Through organizing and uploading them i hope to learn about who I am as a voice and writer and find ways to improve my writing skills. Though I feel drawn to more cerebral topics, I would like my writing to be an engaging emotional journey none the less.

Someday I hope I figure out a way to assemble my short works into something more coherent and with a more obvious purpose. But right now, these tidbits are the best I can do.