Life | Dushka Zapata
- Artful Balance
- Apr 9, 2019
- 3 min read
Why am I never content about anything?
What if I told you that this attribute you are inquiring about is the very best part of you?
There is a special term for it: "Divine discontent."
It's a particular code embedded in you to make sure you never settle, that you pursue happiness.
The pursuit itself is its own reward - it implies exploration, experimentation, curiosity.
If there as anything at all I could persuade you to do it would be to listen to your own beautifully restless inner voice. It's telling you there is something more, because there is.
What happens on TV all the time, but never in real life?
In the movies and on TV, it’s precisely when everything is perfect and everybody is happy that you know something disastrous is about to happen.
Seeing everything go well is what makes you suspicious.
We are learning to be afraid of good fortune - as if joy was something to be wary of.
An assured, impending catastrophe is a sound reason to make sure we never get too happy.
And sure enough, that’s when the car skids. The child wanders off into the woods. Smoke billows.
Well, life is not like TV.
Wonderful things can keep happening to me, one after the other.
The other shoe is not going to drop.
There is no logical reason why there should be a limit to how happy I can be, and the same holds true for you.
If everyone is too busy to talk to you (online or in person) does it mean you are not worth much of their time?
If everyone is too busy to talk to me and I deduce this means I am not worth their time this is a perfect example of what people mean by taking things personally.
If everyone is too busy to talk to me what it means is that everyone is too busy to talk to me - it’s not associated to me, related to me or about me.
This is a fact but as an added bonus life is less painful when I finally come to realize I’m not at the center of why people do or don’t do anything.
I am going to bed now. What can you tell me to make my life better starting tomorrow?
Every day, every moment, I make a series of decisions that will make me more powerful or less powerful.
Even very small, superficial decisions have a big impact.
Do I function better if I have a good breakfast? If so, am I making the time to get it?
How is the outfit I am choosing making me feel? Is it comfortable?
Am I connected to what I am doing, or am I on automatic? Can I really put my best foot forward if I am half engaged?
Am I tolerating things, or in the thick of them, involved, participating?
Am I stepping into the fact that I am the boss of my life or am I asking permission for things I should be deciding?
We are so very powerful. With every decision we come into this fact, or we squander it.
"For anyone over 40, do you feel you're going through/have gone through a midlife crisis?"
This need to set everything down (a midlife crisis) and take a good look around is not something that happens in the middle of your life. It's a recurring theme throughout an examined one.
It's school and the friends you hang out with.
It's your boyfriend and how much of yourself you have willfully given over.
It's realizing your parents are not always right and cannot keep making decisions for you.
It's what the heck you want to study in college or if you want to go to college at all.
It's your first job, oh my god I don't even know what I want this cubicle feels like a prison.
It's questioning things you had blindly taken for granted.
by Dushka Zapata on http://www.quora.com/profile/duska-zapata
In response to question "For anyone over 40, do you feel you're going through/have gone through a midlife crisis?"
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